The more I listen, the more I hear.  No matter what the excuses or defences may be, I have seen first hand the hurt and pain that pornography produces.

I have heard the arguments, I have sat with men as they defend their desires, read articles that attempt to rubbish the claims that pornography is damaging and I have browsed through comments on news articles from people who seek to put forward that no harm can come from indulging in pornography.

Until you sit across from a young boy whose life is falling apart from the guilt, unless you see the hurt in the face of the ones you love most, unless you take the time to look into the lives of those poor people who spend their lives producing the drug that so many men and woman find themselves addicted to, unless you are willing to go on a journey of discovering the truth about what many believe to be “a little bit of fun” you cannot  in all honesty defend something that is killing our children.

I have been blessed over the years with the opportunity to sit and speak with many young people, talking about their hopes and fears, challenges and victories and after sitting through what amounts to probably a few hundred conversations, I can with authority say that pornography is and will be the death of many hopes, dreams, callings, families and marriages.

I recently found myself sitting with a young man and discussing his addiction. His Dad had put up some filtering software, but at the same time he had access to a laptop, an Xbox, a Nintendo Ds, an Iphone, an Ipad and his family PC. On top of that the Dad became angry with his son when he tried to speak about his weakness.

Lets get real, men, husband and dads, we cannot expect our children to win a war when we keep providing the enemy with better weapons and on top of that we don’t take the responsibility to protect our children. We need to take steps towards protecting our sons and daughters, our families, our marriages and our homes from an enemy that will come in promising enjoyment,  but leaves everyone with pain and destruction.

Do yourself a favour, go look at some stats on the availability of pornography, look at the advances in technology, the ability of our children to break through the barriers we set to up protect them, go and look at the truth about the porn “Stars”, see how hurt, desperate, abused and lost they are. We owe it to our families to equip ourselves with the tools to fight, we need to brush up on technology, we need to make ourselves aware and available to talk and be open with our children, we need to stand in the gap for them and not simply expect someone else to do it for us.

Do your family, or family to be a favour and have a look:

http://www.blazinggrace.org/cms/bg/pornstats

http://www.purehope.net/statisticspornography.asp

http://www.shelleylubben.com/-former “star” reveals the truth

http://www.thepinkcross.org/

http://www.enough.org/

We need to stand against this, we need to have an absolute position, that’s not to say no one ever makes mistakes, but that means that in spite of our mistakes, we have a goal we are aiming at. lets aim at making our homes an environment where this will not be tolerated.

God’s Grace is all sufficient and his love never-ending, we can do this, and we must!